Loving the Most Important Person in Your Life

I’m sure that there are lots of things that you really love. You may love your parents, your husband/wife, your girl friend/boyfriend and your children. You may love your car, your home or even your new mobile phone.

But let me ask you a question that may seem really weird, ‘do you love yourself?’ Do you love that person you see in the mirror every day? If you find that you have many things in life to be grateful for but are still not happy with, the reason may be because you have not learnt to love yourself.

In order to be HAPPY and SUCCESSFUL, you have to start by loving yourself. The reason why many people feel lousy about themselves and fail to achieve is because they don’t like who they are.

Many people think that they must first become successful before they start loving themselves and their life. In fact, the opposite is true. You must first love yourself before you can become successful. People who love and feel good abut themselves have what is called HIGH SELF-ESTEEM.

The Most Important Person In Your Life Is…
Let me give you the most important reason why you should love yourself.

Imagine that there was someone whom you have to spend the rest of your life with. You had to spend every minute of every day with this person, day in and day out. This person is the first you see when you wake up in the morning and the last person you see when you go to sleep.

This person is there on all your life’s special occasions: your birthday, Christmas, New Year, your wedding and finally, your funeral. This person is there during all of your life’s ups and downs. This person shares your sorrows and your joys.

When you are down, only this person can cheer you up. When you fall, only this person can pick you up. When you set a goal, only this person can give you the motivation and confidence to achieve it. This person will never leave you and is the only one you can truly depend on.

If you didn’t like this person, wouldn’t your life be absolutely miserable? You’d be forever stuck to a person you didn’t like. You wouldn’t be able to do anything! I am sure you can guess that this person is YOU!

YOU are the most important person in your own life.

The Power of Loving Yourself
When you really love someone, you always want the very best for him or her, right? You would do anything for them. You would make sacrifices for them and defend them if anyone speaks badly of them.

The same thing goes when you love yourself.

When you love yourself, you will want the very best for yourself. You would not accept anything less than the best for yourself. You will want the best relationships, the best career, the best partner and the best home. You will not accept being in an abusive relationship. You will not accept being stuck in a job you hate. You will not accept a mediocre life that is going nowhere.

In other words, those who love themselves dream big and set high standards for themselves. At the same time, you would be willing to work hard and make sacrifices for yourself. You will be willing to sacrifice the effort to go to the gym, to read a self-improvement book and to avoid unhealthy foods that are bad for you.

When You Like Yourself, People Will Start to Like You
When I talk about loving yourself, I am not talking about being an arrogant, egotistical braggart who looks at your self every ten minutes and boastfully says, ‘I am the greatest’. Nobody likes people like that!

In fact, people who really love themselves never boast or show off! They don’t need to. They already feel good about themselves inside.

When you like yourself, you will feel good about yourself. You will have the confidence to take on challenges, make friends and be outgoing. You will smile alot and talk positively about yourself and others. People who feel good about themselves see the good in others and give them sincere encouragement and praise.

This confidence and positive attitude will make you really charming and attractive to others. People will start to admire and respect you. People love being around positive people because it makes them feel good as well.

What Happens When You Don’t Love Yourself?
On the other hand, who hate themselves tend to remain unhappy and unsuccessful. When you don’t like yourself, you tend to put yourself down, think negatively of yourself and set low personal standards.

Back in secondary school, I remember asking one of my friends Stan which University he was aiming to go for. He said, ‘ I don’t want to go to the university.’ ‘With a university degree, you can get a much better job and live a more comfortable life. You can get success, respect and more money,” I said. He replied, ‘who cares?’

At the time, I couldn’t understand why Stan would not care about his own future. Later I realized it was because Stan did not like himself very much. In his mind, he did not think he deserved a great life. He believed that only other people who were better deserved such a successful life.

So, begin the journey of success and happiness by first loving yourself!

中国普通话 VS 马来西亚华语

中国人：今晚你有空吗？我没空！
马来西亚华人：今晚你得不得空？我不得空！

中国人：饼干受潮了…。
马来西亚华人：饼干'漏风'了…。

中国人：从上海去苏州要多少个小时？
马来西亚华人：从上海去苏州要几粒钟？

中国人：难道他不可以来吗？
马来西亚华人：你不给他不来啊？

中国人：周杰伦不喜欢穿内裤。
马来西亚华人：周杰伦不喜欢穿底裤。

中国人：我一向都是这样的
马来西亚人：我一路来都是这样的啦

中国人：我的手机掉进沟渠了。
马来西亚华人：我的手机掉进龙沟了。

中国人：这样你不是很不值得吗？
马来西亚华人：这样你'马'很不 '歹'？

中国人：你真是聪明！
马来西亚华人：你真是pan nai！(源自马来语pandai，聪明的意思)

中国人：你安静！
马来西亚华人：你diam diam！(源自马来语diam，安静的意思)

中国人：我要去银行取款。
马来西亚华人：我要去银行'按钱'。

中国人：为什么？
马来西亚华人：做么？

中国人：你很强~
马来西亚华人：你很够力~

中国人：明天也叫他一起去吧！
马来西亚华人：明天叫'埋'他一起去!

中国人：我很郁闷~~~
马来西亚华人：我很'显'（sien）啊~~~~（'显'比 郁闷的境界更高）

中国人：你再说我就打你！
马来西亚华人：你再说我就hood你！（有点粗 俗的）

中国人：你在说什么？
马来西亚华人：你在说sommok？

中国人：你不要令我丢脸~
马来西亚华人：你不要'下水'我~

中国人：真被你气到…。
马来西亚华人：被你炸到…。

中国人：你别乱来~
马来西亚华人：你表乱乱来~

中国人：你很无聊
马来西亚华人：你很废

中国人：XX你
马来西亚华人：Kanasai（意思是像大便一样， 骂人的话)

中国人：迫切
马来西亚华人：bek chek

中国人：我们一起吃这碗面~
马来西亚华人：我们'公司'吃这碗面~（源自马 来语的kongsi，就是一起分享的意思）

中国人：我们结婚吧!
马来西亚华人：我们结'分'吧！（'婚'字受粤 语影响，所以音不标准）

中国人：今天的天气很热~
马来西亚华人：今天的天气热到~~~~~~~（'到'字 要拉长，然后没有下文了）

中国人：哇!
马来西亚华人：哇捞weh!!!!

中国人：我受不了他！
马来西亚华人：我behtahan他

第一次见面看你不太顺眼

第一次见面看你不太顺眼
谁知道后来关系那么密切
我们一个像夏天一个像秋天
却总能把冬天变成了春天
你拖我离开一场爱的风雪
我背你逃出一次梦的断裂
遇见一个人然后生命全改变
原来不是恋爱才有的情节
如果不是你我不会相信
朋友比情人还死心塌地
就算我忙恋爱 把你冷冻结冰
你也不会恨我 只是骂我几句
如果不是你我不会确定
朋友比情人更懂得倾听
我的弦外之音 我的有口无心
我离不开darling更离不开你
你了解我所有得意的东西
才常泼我冷水怕我忘形
你知道我所有丢脸的事情
却为我的美好形象保密

星期五

我很喜欢星期五，可能是周末要来临了吧！星期五也让我想到我有两天的休假日。以前在读书的时侯就很喜欢，工作了就更喜欢了。每当一到星期五早上，我就会莫名的兴奋起来。星期五一整天也很愉快。我也祝大家星期五快乐。

妻子的空位

我的妻子因为意外事故离开我身边已经三年了，我想，妻子留下不会做任何家事的我和孩子，她的心有何等难过呢？我也因为无法兼顾父母双亲的角色而感到挫折。有一天我为了出差，清晨赶出门，无法将孩子打点好就得离开家，正巧前一天有剩下的饭，我热了蒸蛋，向还没有睡醒的孩子交代一声，就出门去了。
为了照顾好孩子饮食三餐的事，我也无力把自己的工作做好。有一天晚上回到家，我只是很简短地和孩子打个招呼，就因为身体疲累，不想吃晚餐，脱掉西装之后就直接往床上躺下。就在那个时候，砰的一声，红色的汤汁跟方便面瞬时弄脏了床单和被单，原来有碗快熟面在棉被里！这小子真是的，说时迟那时快，我即时拿起一个衣架，跑出去，往正玩着玩具的儿子的屁股就打，因为我实在是太生气了，所以不停地打他。但就在这个时候，他边啜泣边说了一段话，使我停了下来。儿子告诉我说：「饭锅里的饭早上已经吃完了，晚餐在幼儿园吃了，但是到了晚上，爸爸还不回来，我就在橱柜的抽屉里找到了快熟面。可是我想到爸爸说不能乱动煤气灶，所以我就打开洗澡的水龙头，用热水泡了方便面，一个自己吃，另一个想留给爸爸吃。因为怕方便面凉掉，所以我就把它放在棉被里，等你回来。可是因为我正在玩向朋友借来的玩具，所以忘了跟爸爸讲。」
我不想让儿子看到我在流泪，所以冲到洗手间，将水龙头打开，大声地哭。过了一阵子之后，我打起精神来，一面哄着儿子，一面也在他屁股上擦药，让他上床睡觉。当我清理好方便面弄脏的床单和棉被后，打开儿子的房门一看，发现他仍旧发出哭泣声，手里还拿着妈妈的照片。我把头靠在房门站了许久，看着这一幕。
自从在一年前发生这件事之后，我为了扮演好妈妈的角色，更加用心地去照顾他。现在儿子快七岁了，不久后就要从幼儿园毕业，进入小学读书。庆幸的是，儿子在这段时间毫无阴影，很开朗地成长。就在不久前，我再一次打孩子，因为幼儿园来电话说，儿子没有去学校，我心里觉得很不安，所以早退回家，在整个社区里大声地喊他的名字，却是遍寻不着。后来在文具店的门口，看见他站在电玩的前面，于是我很生气，又开始一直打他。儿子并没有说出任何的解释，只说了声对不起。后来我才知道，原来刚好是幼儿园要邀请妈妈去看才艺表演的日子。
发生这些事的几天后，儿子回家说，他在幼稚园里学了写字，从此他经常关在自己的房间里不出来，很认真地写字。我看到儿子这个样子，想到妻子在天国也一定会因为看到他这样而微笑，我就无法忍住泪水。时间很快，又过了一年，到了冬天，街头上都在播放着圣诞节的歌曲，我的儿子却又闯了一个祸。我正要下班的时候，接到一通社区邮局的电话，说我儿子把一捆没有写地址的信，恶作剧地放在邮筒里。每年到了年底，正是邮局最忙碌的时候，所以这对他们造成很大的困扰。虽然我已决定不再打孩子，但在急忙赶回家后，叫了儿子来，我又忍不住痛打他一顿。儿子这一次只是说他做错了，却没有讲出任何理由。我把他推到一个角落，不管了，自个儿跑到邮局领回那一捆恶作剧的信。我把信丢到他眼前说：「你为什么要这样恶作剧？」儿子哭着回答说：「这些信是我要寄给妈妈的。」
当时我的眼眶红了起来，心里很激动，但是因为在儿子面前，所以我尽量隐忍住没有表现出来。我接着问他：「那么，为什么一次寄这么多信呢？」儿子回答说：「以前我要把信投进去的时候，因为个儿太矮，所以没办法投入，但是最近我再去邮筒时，已经构得到了，所以我就把以前没有寄的，一次全部都投进入了。」我听了以后，心中一片茫然，不知道该对孩子说什么话。过了不久以后，我就跟他说：「妈妈现在在天上，以后你写完信，把信烧了，就能送到天国去。」等孩子睡着之后，我到外面烧了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟妈妈说些什么，所以读了其中的几封信。而当中有一封信搅动了我的心。
亲爱的妈妈：我很想念你！妈妈，今天在幼儿园有才艺表演，但是因为我没有妈妈，所以没有去参加，我也没有告诉爸爸，怕爸爸会想念妈妈。爸爸到处去找我，但我为了让爸爸看到我很开心的样子，所以故意坐在电动玩具面前，虽然爸爸骂我，但是我到最后也没有告诉他原因。妈妈，我每天都看到爸爸因为想念妈妈而哭泣，我想爸爸也跟我一样，很想念妈妈吧！但是，妈，我现在已经记不清楚你的脸。妈妈，请你让我在梦中，再一次能够看到你的脸，好吗？听说把想念的人的照片放在怀里睡觉，就会梦到那个人。可是，妈妈，为什么你没有出现在我的梦里呢？」 读完这封信以后，我就开始嚎啕大哭。到底什么时候，我才能填补妻子的空位呢？